Hmm.. hard it is!!

The thought of arranged marriages - Till say a month back, I didn't really know how hard it is to find a "proper" match out of nowhere. But now I got to see the confusion/trauma my friend's parents are undergoing. You might think I'm exaggerating.. but trust me.. arranged marriages are not a piece of cake. That too when you're away from your parents in an alien nation. First you should like the person by seeing a photo! If that goes well, then comes the "horoscope" match. If that also goes well, then they exchange email id's to start a conversation and get to know each other. And oh my god!!! This becomes the most difficult part. You should ask the correct questions and comprehend the answers correctly so that you can judge if the person is fit to be your life partner. Oooph... Kadi it is.. And sometimes we like the person's background, studies, family, looks, everything.. but the horoscopes are not atleast 9/10. And your parents reject that alliance and ask you to show interest on some other profile.. Shabbaaa.. mudiyala... The process goes on. And there are guys who want "everything" to be perfect even before he says yes to the proposal. Like he wants the bride to acquire a visa to the country where he works. And get a transfer from her current company so that she can start working in the same company but from the country where he lives. i.e he's not even ready to give the liberty of quitting the current job and searching for a new one in his so called "living" country. And you know why? He says he lives abroad and cant "waste" a vacation to come and see a gal before he's 100% confident that she's the one! But isn't he supposed to give it a try? How can one be 100% satisfied before seeing each other in person? A little bit of compromise is necessary isn't it?

Seeing my friend going through all this, I'm awed at the way arranged marriages happened during our parents' generation.. phew.. god save us! Such a trouble this is..

Now my mind is filled with so many questions.. How can you judge a person by just seeing a photo? What are you supposed to expect? What questions are you supposed to ask? Are all guys in abroad so stupid that they ask you to file a H1B even before saying yes to your proposal? Or is it just that my friend's luck is so bad that she ends up getting proposals from such jerks in bharathmatrimony site? And what is the right amount of time that you can take to decide if the person is a good match for you? 1 week? 1 month? Onnumey puriyala pa indha system pathi enakku.. But it's so scary!

My first post itself is an emotional out break I suppose ;). Hoping to think of a better topic the next time I try to blog.. hehe